The Personal Journey of Cancer

Many of us have now had personal experience with cancer — with our own cancer and/or through family members, friends and acquaintances.   To be honest, I never cared to know much about cancer until it affected my own life over four years ago.  Now I know these simple concepts:

  • You never really know how you will react to cancer until it actually happens to you.  And it’s different when it happens to your life than when it happens to the life of a family member or friend.
  • Cancer is a crushing experience for some cancer patients.  Others will find strength they never knew they had.
  • Personal support does not always come from those you expect, so try to anticipate this potential disappointment.  Sometimes acquaintances and even strangers will offer much more loving support and understanding than family members and friends will ever offer or be capable of giving.
  • Cancer recovery can look very misleading to other people.  A person recovering from cancer may look healthy when that person is actually in the midst of recovery, which can take a minimum of a year following last treatment.
  • Cancer will definitely have it struggles; but, as a cancer patient or “survivor” — if you look and are open to it — it can also offer wonderful, surprising gifts.  Those gifts can often be liberating, to say the least.  It’s possible for cancer to ultimately change your life for the very best!
  • Attitude has everything to do with healing.  Healing does not always mean living.

My latest experience with cancer was at a gathering just this past weekend, where I heard news that a good acquaintance of mine had been diagnosed with cancer.   This friend is in his early 50s.  I briefly talked with him at this gathering of friends, acquaintances and like-mind strangers who meet once a month.  The last time I saw him was four months ago when I last attended this gathering.  At that time, he appeared tired but happy and in good spirits.  This past weekend, he looked unhealthy and sad.  It turns out he is currently undergoing both chemotherapy and radiation treatments.  He was fighting exhaustion, and he was distracted.  He was scared and angry, and he was reviewing his life.  Later that evening, I heard he had been diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer — in his mouth under his tongue.  Yes, he’s a smoker.  In fact, he prided himself on rolling his own cigarettes the old-fashioned, indigenous way (which happens to be without a filter).  Over the weekend, he publicly vowed to give up his tobacco habit, which is extremely additive and a serious detriment to his current health.

My friend is naturally hoping for a cure from his cancer.  At this weekend gathering, he was with a large number of people, who openly offered a loving intervention and healing support to him.  He’s extremely fortunate to have this type of support.  Not everyone does.  However, he has a history of giving to others.  This past weekend, he reached out to people for himself, which was most likely difficult for him to do.  In turn, he received confirmation that he was loved, even from strangers among the group.  Support and love are critical components to healing.  Ultimately, though, this is his personal journey.

All of this reminds me that, usually when people receive cancer diagnosis through traditional medical staff, this serious information is delivered in a manner that is neither positive nor healing.  The doctor often has a rather scientific or business-like demeanor, which tends to intensify the feeling of fear within the patient.  Of course, physicians aren’t usually our loving family and friends.  It’s understandable that medical staff don’t feel they can get emotionally involved with every cancer patient they have, as there are so many with cancer (and other major medical problems) these days.  But, as I’ve heard it said, when people receive the “C” word (cancer diagnosis), their immune immediately goes into the toilet.  And, of course, the immune system is needed to regain a healthy body.  So, after receiving the news of cancer — which tends to be perceived as a death sentence, at least when first hearing the news — it’s normal for people to start a serious conversation with God (or whoever).  Some will start bargaining for their lives.

You may already know that the impact from this news of cancer doesn’t stop with the patient.  Other people tend to get deeply affected as well, partly over their concern about the person affected by cancer.  It’s natural to think ahead to the possible loss of this person and how life might be without them.  The news can also “hit close to home” and frighten others about the reality of cancer and death for themselves.  In other words, “If you got it, I could get it, too,” almost like it’s contagious.  This is when cancer patients — trying to heal physically, emotionally and spiritually… and trying to balance so many things in their disrupted lives — often find themselves forced into a counselor role to their family and friends, who are having melt-downs about their own mortality or potential loss of well-being.

Then there is the panic to “find the cure” right now!  When looking for treatment options, the information can be overwhelming and conflicting.  For example, even the same type of cancer can have many subclassifications; and different doctors have different philosophies about treatment and management.  Cancer patients are generally confused by all the information, while pushed (or intimated) to make very quick decisions.   In the end — with all the emotionality of the diagnosis and little or no time to research or ask questions — patients have to trust and move forward.  The treatments that individual patients decide upon are quite varied and become very personal to them.  Patients tend to make a passionate commitment to their “cure” of choice.

As for treatments, cancer patients tend to look to and rely upon traditional medicine, which is supposed to have the latest research and advanced methods for combating disease.  Very few of us know about the alternative methods, which are usually considered “quackery” anyway.  Even with “advanced”medical treatments, though, a number of cancer patients die.  Some say cancer deaths may not be immediate to the cancer diagnosis and are incorrectly blamed on — or otherwise contribute to — other illnesses or diseases.

It’s common, then, to hear “cancer survivors” refer to the years they’ve gone without cancer recurrence.  You might hear stated with pride, “I’m 5 years now (or other numbers of years) without cancer recurrence.”  Interestingly, other people will often inquire about a “cancer survivor’s” length of time since treatment and then emphatically summarize and report (with a smile and a wink) to the “cancer survivor” their length of time since cancer treatment… you know, like the “cancer survivor” needed to be reminded of the time that’s passed!  It surely makes people feel more comfortable that there are survivors out there somewhere — that there’s hope…  I’ve personally talked with people who have had cancer recur in their bodies as many as four times.  Sometimes when people encounter recurrence, they start looking at alternative options.

After initially thinking that the traditional medical route was the very best, I finally started to research alternative cancer treatments and cures.   It’s now my personal observation that:

  • Cancer is on the increase.  It doesn’t necessarily relate to family genes.
  • Cancer is a thriving and growing business.  There is an unbelievable amount of financial interest around this business of cancer.
  • Many oncologists will refuse to work with a cancer patient if they know that person is also using alternative methods.
  • Whenever a cancer patient pees or defecates after chemo or other toxic cancer chemicals, every living thing gets a chance at those same toxic cancer chemicals — people who drink the water in the area, the trees, our food resources, etc.  (Of course, this is the same for all the other pharmaceuticals that any part of the population takes.)
  • Cancer can cause damage or devastation to personal finances and usually to work situations and important relationships.
  • After traditional oncology treatments, “cancer survivors” may never regain their full healthy state, including alert mental functioning.

For women in particular, there is a specific phenomenon that you can observe.

  • In order for women to feel better about their mastectomy, they are being told that the “up” side of it all is a “new you” — with better breasts and a flat stomach (tummy tuck).  This is a common “sell.”  In other words, the reward of mastectomy can be reconstructive plastic surgery!  Here’s your opportunity to look more like a Barbie Doll!  (By the way, this surgery doesn’t always work out as well as reported.  For some, it’s a total nightmare.  And, of course, the nipples will be non-functioning for breast milk; and some parts of the body will forever be numb.)
  • If a woman takes chemo, her hair loss is typically devastating to her feminine identity.  She feels that loss to her very core when she looks in the mirror.  She knows it by the way other people react to her bald head.  Women observers tend to be much more understanding than men.  Men tend to be naturally repulsed, although, interestingly, the male reaction can be the opposite.  The reaction tends to be tied to the man’s cultural background.  Hair loss, along with fatigue and other health issues, can affect important intimate relationships.

Now I believe that there might be better, simpler methods outside of traditional oncology that could result in higher cure rates — at a much lower cost, quicker healing time and with less trauma to the body and to important relationships.   In order to heal from cancer, I’ve come to believe that :

  • You should NOT spend time or energy thinking that cancer is your fault or something you did wrong.  You can’t afford that type of thinking, except to understand what you can do differently and better going forward.  Now is the time for loving yourself and healing!
  • You have more treatment options available to you than you are being told.
  • Your own mind is very powerful indeed.  It can sicken your body or will it to die.  Your mind also has the amazing, miraculous ability to help heal your own body.  (Some refer to that as a close connection to God.)

In case you are looking for non-medical options to heal from cancer, I am sharing with you the video below entitled, “Cancer:  The Forbidden Cures.”  This is a history of cancer treatment, as well as a description of some non-traditional cancer treatments.  There are many other alternatives not mentioned in this film, which can be as simple as getting sunlight for 15-20 minutes every day, having fun, laughing, loving, earthing (walking barefoot on the earth a few minutes each day) and leading a more authentic life.  I will not suggest any of these to my friend because he is not ready to hear them right now, if ever.  He’s at the beginning of his journey.  I don’t ever expect him to ever find this posting.  He has made the decision that his best route of treatment is conventional oncology, and I respectfully support him in his difficult decision.

So, I am sharing this information with you as just something to consider, whether this is your journey or the journey of someone you care about.  Perhaps there are ideas here that can be utilized alongside traditional medical treatment.  Perhaps there’s something that can help to improve health following cancer treatment, whether the treatment was recent or years ago.  Maybe you can find ideas to prevent cancer from recurring… or even from beginning.

This is posting is written in recognition and quiet loving support of my friend and of the many others, who are in the midst of this personal journey known as “cancer.”

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1 Response to The Personal Journey of Cancer

  1. Lesley Banks says:

    Thanks for this posting. It must have been hard for you to write, knowing that your friend is on a difficult path. I agree with you that traditional medicine is far too inclined towards making money. There has been no progress in the ‘fight against cancer’ for 40 years, despite billions being poured into ‘research’. It is too lucrative a business to find cure. It is good that he has addressed the ‘toxinicity’ in his cancer – the cigarettes. He now needs to address any deficiency in his diet (and my research shows laetrile as being an almost universal area of deficiency). And his immunity needs to be improved, as this is the main area where the body can fight pathogens including cancer. I have a blog at, and have there some ideas on natural pathways to health. But for his immunity, I would suggest you point him to GcMAF is another natural product, found in healthy people. It will never be made by BigPharma as it cannot be patented, but can be bought from a small lab in Europe. Chemo and radiation will destroy his immune system, this might help. I send lots of love and prayers your way

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